Thursday 27 September 2012

WOMEN WHO ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT

                      
Cheating can be anything you do behind your partner that you keep a secret.
It can also be something you share with an opposite sex or same sex behind your partner that is kept a secret.
women cheat for different reasons, it could be falling out of love, not been treated right by partners, partners not meeting her sexual needs, some women also cheat because they are sexually frustrated as well, or not getting attention or compliments from partner.
 Alcohol plays a big role on infidelity in a woman.
Women who are more likely to cheat are mostly women that always out clubbing, partying and socializing.
Women that likes getting drunk in clubs, parties and socializing venues are more likely to cheat. Some women gets easily loose or lust when drunk.  
Some women also like varieties as well.
 On one of my many experiences and surveys I met a girl at the entrance of a night club, I tried to chat her up ,but then she told me she has a bf, few hours later after she has had a few
drinks I spotted this same girl snogging(kissing) like 3 different blokes and then I thought ‘wow’ strange, After clubbing I and my mates were waiting for taxi home outside the club and a car pulled over and to my greatest surprise it was an old good mate of mine I haven’t seen in 4yrs, then we got chatting and I asked what he's up to and he said he came to pick up his fiancée from the club, to another surprise it was this same girl that he came to pick up, then I thought to myself, this guy hasn’t got any idea what his so-called fiancée has been up to in the club.
Some women lie to their partners that they will be staying at their mate's house after night out, but deep inside they are out on the pull for that night, and up for one night stands, and few don't exchange digits as in phone numbers so that they don’t get caught out.
There was one situation where her partner was in the army and was deployed to another country, she’s always out clubbing and going back with different
men, the weird part is while the next guy is still in bed, she gets up early and runs downstairs to ring her partner pretending to have been at home all night and being a good girl.
Though not all women that drink alcohol or always clubbing or partying cheats.
 Some women don’t drink alcohol nor go clubbing, but they are serial cheaters.
80percent of women that loves alcohol, clubbing and parties do cheat.
 Mind you some women that their partner’s work away cheat as well due to loneliness.
Above all don’t get me wrong, am not saying you shouldn’t go for a woman that loves her parties.

Wednesday 12 September 2012

My Views On Cultural Relationships

Cultural Relationships has been one of the growing factors in the western world.
It has been one of the causes of fallout within families, and stresses in the Big House.

One of my advice is that people should be prepared before getting into one. They should also be prepared to accept the other person's culture, or be able to be adapt.
You cannot just jump into one with closed eyes or let yourself to be blinded by love. I know the saying "love is blind", but there are certain situations or things where love should have eyes.

Factors affecting cultural relationships includes e.g Religion, Tradition, Belief, Culture, Food can also be a factor, Sense of Reasoning, Discipline and Respect Etc.
 
Now, if either party is a Christian or Muslim or you are both following different Religions, you should put each others religion into consideration. Whether you or your partner are willing to accept your respective religions, or in some cases one will want to persuade the other to convert to their religion, this should be first agreed at the early stage.
I have come across many cases where in the long-run the man wants the woman to convert to his Religion but then, the woman is not willing, as it was not discussed initially.
In some cases, the families don't agree with the whole thing, then tension arises, hatred comes into play, resentment, argument,  disagreement and even lead into violence.

Now tradition is also a big factor because people have different traditions, there is a saying that ''you can take all my gold and silver but you cannot take away my Colour and Culture''.

The English have their own tradition same as Africans, Asians amongst all.
Though some traditions are really different and not as easy to follow, or should i say some are stricter than others.
Some take their tradition really seriously even though they have been living in the western world for years.
UK for example is the most Multicultural Country in Europe, you see lots of Caucasian women going for Black African men or Asian men, at first its fun sweet fairytale, but in the long-run that's when the woman realizes that the African and Asian tradition could be quiet restricting and different from they ever imagined.
Apart from the different tradition or culture, Sense of Reasoning too can play a role because the way they reason from where they came from is different, same as discipline and respect.
Africa for example, naughty kids are smacked both in school and at home to teach them respect and as a form of discipline..it goes with the saying "spear the Rod, spoil the child".

This is a true fact, an African child has respect, they are taught to respect everyone that is just a year older than them never-mind someone much older. Some can never tell their parent ''shut up'', "Don't be silly daddy"or ''dad your doing my heading''.

You cant really see a boy of 15 or even less than 23yrs smoking on the road, they get told off or even smacked for that, you don't have to know the child or his family for you tell them off, if found doing wrong.
Women get dirty looks for smoking, now this is an African tradition and the way they reason which some people might or might not agree to.
African or asian men believe to work and provide for the family, while the woman stays at home and takes care of the house and kids, while he loves his food to be ready and served when ready.
Never mind some believes in polygamy (being married to more than one wife);

Circumcision -: This is another factor affecting cultural relationships, it is compulsory in some culture to circumcise their male child while some culture don't regard it atall.
There are families that has had feuds over this issue, i think people should make their researches and be willing to accept their partners culture and tradition before getting into relationships.

Finally, i encourage Intercultural Relationships as far as there's a pre discussion on expectations from both parties. Just the same way couples talk about having kids.
That way you both know what you are getting into, and it becomes easier to manage and control volatile situations.
Cultural Relationship is a beautiful thing, it increases individual knowledge of different cultures and religions, and not  being under any pressure to follow or not to follow.
There will be less family feuds if people make proper research and are willing to adapt to the culture of their potential partner.

Monday 10 September 2012

Faith the Mediocrity of Failure

Faith is a direct opposite of doubt, its extremely contrary to fear,anxiety and worry.
One sure reason why a good number of people are unsuccessful in life today is the fear of failure.
If a child is afraid to fall,he will never learn to walk,and if there is no possibility of failure,then success will be a big ridicule.
Faith overcomes the impossible.
Determination today leads to success tommorrow.
My father used to tell me that dreams come true, but then i thought it was an old man's flow.
Lots of people don't know that dreaming today could become a reality tommorrow.
That is why people need to have faith.
Because with Faith, Failure becomes a mediocre.